You should not be disheartened when faced with problems, but instead act wisely in overcoming them. No worldly-minded person can ever be free from problems. Hence, it is not so much who experiences problems that marks the difference between a wise and an unwise person, but the manner in which he faces them.
Something unpleasant happens, say, your possession is lost or is damaged. There are two ways of reacting to the loss and damage. You can either choose to brood over it, by blaming either yourself or others. Or you can pass it off by saying ‘The thing is gone. It is bad enough to have lost it, but why should you allow it to make you unhappy to suffer the loss and damage?” It would be useful to trace back to the causes that had lead to the breakage and loss so as to avoid such an occurrence in the future. You can also think about how the loss can be replaced, or how to avert whatever problems that may arise from that loss. If the loss is of no real consequence to others, you may even start to do something else to take your mind from the incident, since it is in the nature of compounded things that such occurrences happen. Should an unfortunate thing happen and if it is beyond your control, then with the support of your understanding of the nature of life, you must have the courage to face it.
In other words, adopt a positive frame of mind when faced with such problems, rather than let it dwell on negative states. If unhappiness should arise due to a negative frame of mind it is really of your own doing or seeking.
According to the Buddha, “Mind is the forerunner of all states. Mind is chief; mind-made are these states.”
The Buddha also taught that your sorrows are caused by your own actions and arise from your own ignorance. He showed you how to remove sorrow, but you, yourself must work to gain happiness.
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